I've noticed something rather unique about people; they always seem to have the gift of the gab. In my case, that means someone who can talk with confidence, like they actually have an idea of what they're saying. I, as you might expect, based on this blog post, don't possess that ability. No matter how many times I try to talk to someone, I just never quite know what to say to them in real life. I just don't get it. Is there some sort of guide to talking to someone that I never got? Because I would really like that sometimes. I try to talk to others, and sometimes, I do well, but other times, I'm socially awkward enough to repeat myself in conversations, when I have no idea what to say to someone. It's embarrassing to say the least.
I write now, talking to a friend, who has told me he's a bit the same. Their teacher gets really annoyed when this friend of mine doesn't look them in the eye. Well, I was a little bit the same when I was younger. I had trouble doing that. I mean, it's still hard, but I try to do it a little more often than I used to. But, trying to stick to a topic, and staying that way, well...that's easier said than done. Quite literally. Maybe, and this is according to my friend here, maybe the reason I find it easier to talk to him online, just like with other people, on the Xbox One, is because it's a low-pressure environment My brain acknowledges it's a low-pressure environment. Because I'm in a chilled environment (and as a bonus I have someone, like them, who is less likely to try and make conversation), it means my brain is more relaxed to let conversations actually happen, which in turn, means I'm less likely to feel like I'm going to screw up (they said something different, but I'm too polite to say it here).
That, was from a psychological point of view. And that makes sense to me, because of the logic, and science behind it. Maybe, that's why I feel more like this:
Instead of like this:
I just wish I had more confidence sometimes, so then, I didn't feel so socially awkward. One character, from the TV show 'Big Bang Theory', Raj, demonstrates during the earlier seasons that he's socially awkward, but, unlike me, not around everyone, but women only. He could only talk to them if he had some 'Liquid courage', so to speak (he needed to have some alcohol before he could talk to a woman comfortably). I'm not going to do that to myself; getting drunk so I can talk to someone, and that's only because I made a vow to myself to never drink a drop of alcohol. I have tried it, once or twice, but that's about it. In truth, the only time I have had the stuff is during Christmas, which, at the time of writing this, is only 20 days away!! The only kind of liquor I could stomach can be found in my mum's signature dessert of Tiramisu, an italian dessert, which as one of the ingredients, doesn't just contain coffee, but coffee liquor, called a Kahlua. And that's the honest truth.
What about you? Are you, or were you once socially awkward? Do you know someone besides me like that? Let me know in the comments below, or contact me, via the 'Contact Me' page.
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